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inHIStime
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 Ups and downs and back up again!
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So, about the straw that broke the camel's back....
DH has been seeing an herbalist/acupuncturist since November. This man told him that the root cause of all of his morph/motility problems is the fact that his type II diabetes is totally out of wack and he needs to concentrate on improving that and he will see results in all areas (especiall TTC). It took pretty much all of December for this to sink in his think head and now he has resolved that this is OUR year! He's going to get healthy and let God do the rest. There were 2 things I expected from him: for him not to miss any doses of his meds or herbs and not to miss ANY appts. with his TCM doc. He was so convincing when he told me "this year, NOTHING is coming before my health and the well being of our baby making plans".
It started out great, we were taking walks every day after dinner and he hadn't missed 1 dose of anything or any appts. He even stopped drinking diet soda! So, last Thursday (1/14) was the day he had the herbalist appt. When he got home (close to 10pm) I asked him if he made it to his appt assuming that the answer was (of course) going to be 'yes'. He answered 'no' and I saw bright red! I couldn't help it!!! I have the patience of 1000 people put together, but that was it...the straw that broke my back! We ended up getting into a little argument that ended with "Well, I missed the appt. and there's nothing left to say!" and he walked out of the room. That was the first time in 11 years that we went to bed mad.
On Friday I decided that I needed to spell out my expectations to him so he knows what I need from him and we don't have any further misunderstandings or arguments over this stuff anymore. I laid it all out on the table telling him that he really let me down the day before. That killed him! He sulked the rest of the night...little did I know what had happened that day!
His job is waaaay to demanding and is to the point were it is affecting our home life (obviously). We had been praying for an answer to this problem because with this economy we thought we should just be thankful for him having a job, but how are we ever going to conceive if he is under stress 24/7? Well, on Friday the Lord answered our prayers and one of the accounts he services offered him a management job - with SET HOURS and a RAISE! Unbelieveable!!! Just when I was at the end of my rope (& he at his) this wonderful thing happens. He told me on Sunday while we were getting ready for church. I was soooooooo thrilled! I felt like we were stuck and this offer has cut us loose! AMEN!
So, now there is nothing standing in our way to make 2010 our year. Our year to: get healthy and stay healthy, put ourselves first, and to improve his #'s so we can conceive.
I just want to shout from the rooftops words of praise! God is so faithful to answer prayers. Of course this does not guarantee that we will have success at TTC, but it will clarify a lot. The way I see it, if we have done everthing in our human power to conceive (better diet, less stress, herbs, IUI) and at the end of this year it does not happen, then I will be convinced that God has other plans for us and then I will have to be obedient to His will for our lives. Up until now I don't think we (mostly DH) had commited himself to the TTC process. But now I know we are on the same page with our plan for this year.
Remember that song by Patte LaBelle - I've got a new attitude? Well, that's me in a nutshell for this year! Yesssssss!  
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 Posted: Tue Jan 19, 2010 9:50 pm
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